I think I may have found a way of definitively finding a long-lost crush. Tell me if that's a bad idea.
My case is kind of like this,
only my crush was requited. At least, I think so -- we were twelve and probably too young to even realize that that's what was going on. (The fact that this was taking place at a church youth group also maybe made things weird.) But we definitely dug each other, to the point that other kids teased us for being "boyfriend and girlfriend" even though we denied it.
My crush dropped out of sight when we turned thirteen, then out of nowhere one morning when I was sixteen he walked up to me in the church parking lot and struck up another conversation with me. We were a little flirty, but then lost touch yet again for another three years -- when we ran into each other again, but I was half of a couple that time, so we kept it at "friendly catching-up" and that's the last we've seen each other.
I've been thinking of my crush off and on, ever since, for nearly 15 years now. I've wanted to track them down and...okay, the romantic part of me kind of holds out hope of something, but the rest of me is bracing for "they're married/not your orientation/dead/doesn't want to talk to me," and I could just be seeking closure. A few times I've tried tracking my crush down, but it always fizzles.
Now -- I have come across what I am 99% certain is a mailing address and phone number for my crush's brother. I did this via legal means -- a free Google search, of the 'hey, let's plug names I know into google and see if I get hits -- hey, wait" variety. The name fits, the age fits, the general location fits.
SO: exactly how weird would it be for me to write to this guy and explain that I was friends with his brother some years ago and wanted to reconnect? The brother whose address I found was at the same church, just a different year of the youth group, so it's not ENTIRELY out of nowhere. But I hate to creep the guy out completely, so if this verges on stalkerish, let me know. Thanks.