A girl I really care for has Herpes. Is this a dating dealbreaker?
June 8, 2005 10:56 AM Subscribe
Should I consider Herpes a deal-breaker before getting into a relationship?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (52 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I’m a 25-year-old guy who has been close friends with a girl for close to a year. We just confirmed tonight we had feelings for each other, and I think she’s pretty special. Anyway, she let me know that between her last boyfriend and me, she had a one-night stand with a guy who gave her Herpes. I don’t know any more than that (type, how serious she gets it, oral or genital, etc). All I know is that it places things in a different light. I really do like her, but this seems to change things. It’s hard enough going from the ‘friend zone’ to a relationship, and I’d be lying if I didn’t have some pessimistic feelings before this piece of information - we probably all have those second guessing feelings before a relationship starts, but anyway. The real question is should I knowingly go into a relationship with a girl who has Herpes, and will, in all likelihood, give it to me? I’m looking both for advice on what to do, as well as anecdotes on life with, or dating someone with Herpes. If you want to share, but it’s too private, email firstname.lastname@example.org. Looking forward to your advice…