What's going on here?
September 16, 2011 7:59 PM Subscribe
Confused, lost and looking for suggestions to get back on track.
posted by xm to Grab Bag (16 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I finished a doctorate very, very recently. For years I'd go to work, think of work while walking, talking to people, doing dishes, doing laundry and chores, sleeping and waking up. I feel messed up now. I can't make decisions properly. I am not even talking career decisions. It can be as simple as deciding what to eat for dinner. I have no motivation nor an idea what to do with my life and myself. What the hell is the purpose of life? I don't know. For years I had a goal to look forward to and I never really planned any for afterwards. I cannot believe I have a few more decades to live like this.
To make matters worse, I am single and the very few friends I have right now will be moving away very soon. I feel so lost and...alone. I think it will truly hit me when my friends leave in a few months. While I have mostly been alone by choice for most of my life...something seems terribly missing. I am not sure if its a companion, a goal, or fun? I don't even know how to have "fun" anymore. Is it possible to even relearn that?
Is this normal? Is this burn-out? Will having fun *fix* me for good? Is it normal to feel this way post-phd? I am looking for serious, non-generic answers. I would especially love to hear from folks who have been down that road after a major life-event.