Does this manual stimulation technique shown by a neatly-dressed guy work as advertised?
September 12, 2011 8:17 AM   Subscribe

[Very, very NSFW] Does this manual stimulation technique for women actually work, or is it just a gimmick with this particular woman?

Have a look at this video (again, NSFW, Redtube video that depicts a guy manually stimulating a woman). Has anyone tried this and found that it's substantially different from more, uh, straightforward fingering? Don't have anyone to try this, but I'm curious!
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (14 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
 
My ex used to always be trying this and I would not actually squirt but liked it.

I imagine individual women will vary for whether it feels good or not. It definitely feels more intense which is something I'm into much more so than other women, so I suggest starting slowly and checking in frequently until you get a clear YES PLEASE.
posted by the young rope-rider at 8:31 AM on September 12, 2011


[folks, you don't need to answer if you don't want to answer but comments need to be answers to the question, thanks]
posted by jessamyn at 8:47 AM on September 12, 2011


For pretty much any given act that one person enjoys, there will be more than one person who enjoys it. (Which is basically a variant on Ugol's Law.)
posted by rmd1023 at 8:57 AM on September 12, 2011


This and similar techniques work for some women I know (including me). Others I know don't like that kind of stimulation. How do you know if it'll work for a particular woman you might be interested in trying it on in the future? Ask her!
posted by rhiannonstone at 9:09 AM on September 12, 2011


How do you know if it'll work for a particular woman you might be interested in trying it on in the future? Ask her! Gently and lovingly try it out with her, responding to her feedback!

Agreed, with slight revision, rhiannonstone.
posted by IAmBroom at 9:17 AM on September 12, 2011


I would find this really unpleasant and it would not have the intended effect. So, it might work as advertised for some women but it's definitely not some guaranteed thing.

This advice from the young rope-rider is really good advice for so many sexual situations, not just this one:

I suggest starting slowly and checking in frequently until you get a clear YES PLEASE.
posted by Ashley801 at 9:18 AM on September 12, 2011 [2 favorites]


It depends on a lot of things. The shape of the penetrator's fingers, especially their length, makes a big difference. The size, position, and sensitivity of the woman's G-spot makes a big difference. It depends how intense she likes her G-spot stimulation. It depends how turned on she is.

My gf can't handle having her G-spot stimulated this roughly unless she's had more gentle stimulation. (This generally means some in-and-out fucking before I start poking her G-spot like that.) I don't know if she could come from this particular technique, because my fingers are too short to hit her G-spot properly. I have done roughly the same thing with a toy, though, and it sometimes makes her squirt.

My gut says that women who orgasm easily from penetration will enjoy this more than those who don't, but it really depends on the person.

So, ask her is she's interested, and if she says yes, try it out. As the young rope-rider says, go slow and check in often, because this can really hurt if you're too fast or too rough.
posted by catalytics at 9:22 AM on September 12, 2011


At the very start of the video, the guy does say that foreplay should last for a loooong time (all day), before trying this out; foreplay can be everything from kissing to cuddling to a full body massage, but it's important to be emotionally connected to your partner before trying this out. It's just not something you can spring on a women after 15 minutes of warm-up.
posted by KokuRyu at 10:42 AM on September 12, 2011 [2 favorites]


My ex-girlfriend had reacted to this kind of stimulation very similarly like the girl in the video. My wife though doesn't like fingering at all. So yes, sometimes it works.

And as KokoRyu said, foreplay is really important. We did done this kind of stimulation only at the end of long love sessions.
posted by przepla at 12:49 PM on September 12, 2011


I can say that for me, it works and is one of the only things that work. It's near impossible for me to orgasm by masturbation or penetration (I can count on one hand how many times that's happened). The technique in the video will make me orgasm almost every single time. For me, a little build up is necessary but I don't require some hour long session before going at it hard. Two things...you can never use too much lube and TRIM YOUR FINGERNAILS beforehand which includes filing the edges down after clipping.
posted by MaryDellamorte at 3:33 PM on September 12, 2011 [1 favorite]


That sort of rough g-spot stimulation is extremely enjoyable for me, but it takes forever for me to orgasm thru g-spot stimulation alone (I've actually only ever done it solo... there is no way my husband has enough stamina to get me there.)

In the video, it looks as if he may be hitting her clit with the heel of his hand. My ex-husband used to do this thing where he'd get his two middle fingers against my g-spot, and then sort of curl his hand around my whole vulva and "rock" his hand in and out, so that his fingers stimulated my g-spot firmly and the heel of his hand just brushed my clit. THAT was an insanely good orgasm.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 9:14 PM on September 12, 2011


Definitely works for me, although it takes me a good bit longer than the girl in the video and thus can be pretty physically exhausting if the goal is squirting. I find it less tiring to use a curved dildo to get the same kind of stimulation. I also absolutely loooooove the instant pleasure this creates and am happy to enjoy it for any length of time even if I don't get to the point of squirting. I consider the pleasure from this kind of stimulation to be almost as intense as orgasm, and more prolonged! The type of orgasm it creates is really different too -- more of a sudden *ahem* release of tension than a normal orgasm, which I think of as a sudden concentration of pleasurable tension.

And yes, for the love of all that is holy, if you find someone to try this with, do NOT have any little sharp edges on your nails.

Hm, now I need to go watch some porn and find out what constitutes "more straightforward fingering" because this looked pretty normal to me...apparently my rough-o-meter is miscalibrated.
posted by ootandaboot at 9:37 PM on September 12, 2011


I also absolutely loooooove the instant pleasure this creates and am happy to enjoy it for any length of time even if I don't get to the point of squirting. I consider the pleasure from this kind of stimulation to be almost as intense as orgasm, and more prolonged!

This is my experience as well.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 4:47 AM on September 13, 2011


Yeah, as everyone's saying it varies WILDLY. Personally it's embarrassingly easy for me to orgasm (manually, PIV all positions, dry humping clit stimulation, dirty dreaming, whatever) and yet this kind of stimulation does very little for me (showerheads never do it for me either). I do think it's intriguing that it sometimes seems like the same people who can't get off the ways I can can very easily in the ways I can't (see posters upthread, and I've got lady friends who are the same way). Literally different strokes and all that, communication and trial and error with a partner you trust is key.
posted by ifjuly at 10:42 AM on September 13, 2011


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