Crushing...just as painful as it sounds.
September 11, 2011 6:29 PM Subscribe
I have an embarrassing, painful crush on someone in my tiny grad school program. How to stop thinking about them in this way?
posted by anonymous to human relations (25 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I am in a very small liberal arts doctorate program, and I have developed a crush on a classmate. The problem - well, one of the problems - is that I'm in a committed relationship, and I feel like I'm betraying my partner with every impure thought I have about this person.
I find myself thinking about them all the time, getting nervous around them, getting butterflies - just total, full-on, crush mode. When I think about how I would feel if my partner dwelled on someone else to this extent, it makes me feel terrible. I would be really angry and hurt.
Avoiding this person isn't really an option because my program is so small; also, I would really like to be friends with them. They are one of the few people I like at school.
What should I do?