Can't Be Pro(fessional) With my Bro
September 8, 2011 1:39 PM Subscribe
How can I continue doing occasional work for a company without having to interact with my brother who also works there?
posted by oceanview to Work & Money (7 answers total)
My brother, who I usually have a horrible relationship with, suggested that I apply for an internship at his company at the beginning of the summer. At this time we were on OK terms. I applied and got the internship in department A. He was my supervisor--i.e. the one giving me assignments. Soon enough, our toxic relationship reared its head, we had an argument and I quit.
A couple of weeks later, someone else at the company contacted me and asked me to come in for an internship for a slightly different position in department B. (This person didn't even realize I had been at the company a few weeks ago, they just came across my resume. I'm sure my brother gave some excuse like I found another job if anyone asked why I was no longer there). I worked in that position for the rest of the summer and the team was very happy with me. Occasionally I would do assignments related to the first position in department A I had there, though I was interacting with someone else to get assignments-not my brother.
When the internship ended last week, my supervisor said I could continue doing occasional assignments for them in department A as a way to expand my portfolio and to stay on the company's radar should a paid position come up. The thing is, the person with whom I was usually in contact in department A ("Bob") is away for vacation and told me to instead contact "Jim"--i.e. my brother for assignments.
I don't want to be in touch with him. It will only lead to misery. Is there a professional way to let "Bob" know that I would prefer to interact with him for assignments rather than my brother? His email about being away on vacation was hazy--I'm not sure if he meant to contact my brother just for the duration of the vacation or from this point on. Let's assume it's from this point on. Is there a professional way to tell Bob I'd rather not get assignments from Jim? Bob knows Jim is my brother, by the way.
My brother will not keep things strictly professional, but will rather take any correspondence between us as a way to give his opinion on matters about my personal life, which is the reason I'd prefer no contact with him.