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September 5, 2011 9:52 PM Subscribe
Re-connecting with possibly supportive professor. What's the best way to do this?
posted by gypsyroseme to human relations (11 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I have, for the past year, been on medical leave from college due to mental health issues. My departure at the end of the 2009-2010 year was abrupt, and I was not able to say my good-byes and tie up loose ends the way I would have liked, which generally made me feel like a jerk and as though I have thrown away most of the friendships/connections I made that year (also my first at the college). Now I'm back, and am wondering how best to re-connect with a professor I had who was highly supportive of my academic work. I am especially worried because I have had very little contact with them since I left. I last had contact with her early this year, when she e-mailed to check up on me; I replied, and she replied to my reply, but I did not keep up the correspondence due to some rather aggressive anxious/depressive thoughts I was having at the time (which is another story).
So, I am feeling quite guilty about this. I am very grateful for all she has done for me, even if I feel my behavior says otherwise. I would also like very much to regain her academic/professional support without looking opportunistic in that it appears I just assumed she would still be willing to mentor me.
So, these are the options I'm mulling:
1) I could e-mail her. This seems the obvious choice, but as I am still waiting on FinAid, I am not yet able to register for classes (although I will be). I am pre-registered for a few of her classes, but if I e-mail her, I don't particularly want to explain why I'm not on her class roster yet, as, quite frankly, I'm a bit embarrassed.
2) I could just show up in class (when I'm able to). This seems the least attractive option, as I would imagine she would feel blindsided/miffed, maybe? by the fact that I didn't even try to say hi or anything before classes began. But perhaps I'm assuming too much.
3) I could stop by her office sometime during the day, before my first class with her meets. This seems like the best option, as I may know by then whether or not I'm able to register yet.
I know I'm probably overthinking this, but I am genuinely curious about etiquette/propriety in this situation, or if I even have anything to worry about. Thank you for any advice you can give.