Is this guy really confident, or a weirdo?
August 28, 2011 10:45 AM Subscribe
I've been asked out by a complete stranger. I need some help deciding between being flattered and impressed by his confidence, or being suspicious and forgetting the whole thing.
posted by kmnpdx to Human Relations (62 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
During my commute Friday morning, I caught the eye of a fellow train passenger. I just thought it was one of those things, you notice someone and look a couple times. We both got off at the same stop, he out of the set of doors at the other end of the car. He ended up waiting for me a ways down the platform, and as I got close to him, he held out his hand, asked my name, introduced himself, and said he had noticed me and thought I was beautiful. We walked a ways, made a few sentences of small talk, and he said he would like to get together sometime and asked if we could exchange phone numbers or if he could give me his. I took his. He mentioned what part of town he was from (actually very close to where I live), and that if I wanted to, he'd like to see me again. He also said he'd gotten off at that stop just to be able to talk to me. I did see him turn around and get back on the next train right after we were done, so that was true.
He obviously didn't seem overtly weird or crazy, or else of course I wouldn't have given it a second thought, and wouldn't be asking for advice. : ) Apart from being a bit taken aback, I didn't get a 'creepy' vibe from him.
This has never happened to me before. Everyone else I've been out with I've met through work, or through mutual friends. They play it cool, find me on Facebook, we exchange a few emails, then they ask me out.
It is all very flattering, and I almost feel bad for being suspicious, but is there any advice about what it might mean that a guy is this forward? I wish there was a way to know if he is confident or a weirdo.
Would it be wiser/safer to forget about it, or would it be acceptable to say 'oh, what the heck?' and give it a try?