August 26, 2011 9:24 AM Subscribe
How do I RSVP to this wedding shower?
posted by roomthreeseventeen to human relations (10 answers total)
Two of my (gay male) friends are getting married (to each other) in November. We received a save the date a few months ago, addressed to DH and I.
I received an invitation to their (September) wedding shower a few days ago, addressed to just me. The shower is being hosted by the mother of one of the grooms. I have met her before, DH has not.
I have no idea whether the shower is a surprise, as the RSVP info is for the mom. I don’t want to ask my friends if DH is invited to the shower, in case they don’t know about it. I guess I could be the only one invited (I have known one of the grooms for several years, and DH just met both men last year, although we have all had dinner together several times, and DH teaches one of the grooms), but it could also just be that the host didn’t know my husband’s name. (Although, in that case, it might have said “and guest” right?)
I hope this isn’t too convoluted. I was just wondering if it was really rude to e-mail the host mom and ask her if the invitation is just for me, or for DH as well. I don’t drive, so if I go alone, DH is going to have to drop me off anyway.
Ah, the joys of newly legal gay wedding etiquette.