What would you do if you felt you were the subject of untrue gossip?
August 19, 2011 6:36 PM Subscribe
What would you do if you feel you're being gossiped about?
posted by Fenshwee to human relations (25 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
A year ago I resigned from a social club, because there was ALOT of gossip. Alot of trashing of people, constant drama. It was a drinking club on the water- I liked the idea of being part of a club, and the water- so I joined- but only 2 years later, I resigned because I was just constantly feeling a vibe of angry drinkers. gossip.
So I quit, and I distanced myself. Got involved in sports, did not drink nearly as much- got into shape. Felt like, though I miss these people at times- because there was fun- overall, it was psychologically far less draining to be away from it. And the feeling that I could never really trust anyone- because of the constant gossip that was tossed around. Really, character assasination stuff.
So- it's been a year- no real contact- And I went to a birthday party there, and that night this one woman decided to tell me that people used to talk about me in a bigoted, anti-semetic way. Which is weird, because I am not particularly religious, and I am friendly to EVERYONE. Told this person that I really have no bad feelings toward the club, and I'm over it and I really don't want to hear that people were talking about me. It's in the past and it's not worth it.
But THEN last week, out of the blue, just 2 weeks after this party- I got a call- and was told that people were saying I was going around town to bars (which I don't really go out to) accusing certain members of being bigoted. THis same person spread it around.
My decision rather than confront it- aside from telling the person who called me that it's completely and utterly untrue- was to distance myself. No contact, no nothing. But I think people are mad at me. I have some acquaintances there I play sports with and I am feeling paranoid that they might believe some of this crap, and I am just so upset that I worked so hard to remove myself from all that worthless stupid drama and in JUST ONE NIGHT, I'm literally dragged back in, name besmirched.
What should I do? I don't want to ask "ARE YOU MAD AT ME?" but yet, I do. I promise you, I said not a word that this person said I did. She brings the drama but I can't deal. It really makes me paranoid. I know I shouldn't care, but I do.