Enough with the fattie jokes
August 18, 2011 8:39 AM Subscribe
How do I suggest to an elderly relative that he stop insulting me every time he sees me?
posted by anonymous to human relations (67 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
1. I have a nonagenarian uncle who is of a totally different generation than I (he is a World War II vet, was a businessman in the Mad Men era), while I was born in the sixties.
2. I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I was kind of a pudgy kid. On the day I got married, I was ten pounds overweight; twenty years later, it is more like 75.
3. Every time I have ever seen him in my life, he has felt the need to make a crack about my weight. At his wife's funeral, he was chuckling and nudging my wife and telling her "better not feed this guy so much." I mentioned once that I do not eat red meat for various reasons and he looked me up and down and said, "You don't get to look like that by eating chicken and fish."
He is generally a polite, pleasant guy, but every goddamn time we see each other, he feels the need to crack wise. Maybe it is part of his hearty back-slapping personality, but it is unavoidable. I see him maybe twice a year, but I know that every time he will openly insult me and laugh at his own wit.
How do I broach this with him and tell him that generally openly mocking people for their appearance is something that is frowned upon these days?