How do I nicely say, ah, your dog, which is at our house, is not welcome at our house?
August 16, 2011 12:30 AM Subscribe
We have some friends staying with us tonight. They’ve just texted me to say they’re here, and they’ve brought their dog and they hope that’s OK. It’s not OK. How can I gently and tactfully communicate that I’m cool with it this time, I guess, seeing as it’s here, but would prefer the dog stay outside during this visit and that future visits are pet free?
posted by t0astie to human relations (50 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
If they had asked me before setting off, I would’ve said no. But they didn’t and have driven hundreds of kilometres with the puppy. These are really nice people. They’ve been awesome and super hospitable about having us stay at their place in the past, and we expect to stay with them again. Also, well, I like them and do not want to take the hardline option of saying, “Hey, you should’ve asked, no, puppy not welcome, take it elsewhere”.
Yes, I know they've done the wrong thing by bringing the dog without asking, but my aim is not to rub their noses in it, rather to make them welcome, while gently and firmly drawing a boundary for this and future visits.
How can I tactfully communicate “OK, this time seeing as you’re here, but puppy needs to stay outside. And next time, no puppy.” Possibly relevant background: The puppy is, I think a Pomeranian. If I have the breed wrong, it’s definitely a small dog, rather than say a Doberman. In its own home it’s an indoor dog. They’ll be staying in a little flat attached to our house. It’s carpeted. We do have a huge backyard. Which I’m not at all keen on having a dog run around in, but would prefer to it being in the house. Is it even OK for a small dog to stay outside during winter? Is it awful to expect an indoor dog to stay outside for a few days? The temperature where I am can go as low as 5C overnight. (I’m in Australia, it’s winter here, and I’m in a fairly cold bit of South Australia.) There are no boarding kennels or anything where I live, in a remote area of the state, so can’t ask them to put it in a kennel and it’s way too far for them to go home. Argh. If it matters why I don’t want the dog in the house, I don’t mind dogs in other people’s houses, but am really not a dog person and really really am very uncomfortable with having a dog in my house. Help!