I've got a huge crush on a friend. I'm pretty sure said friend likes me back. YES!! Caveat: We won't see each other until school starts in a month, and I want to make my move in person. How do I keep my twitterpated daze from eating up the last beautiful bit of summer while setting the groundwork for possible dating in the fall?
We're both rising college juniors, and we've been fantastic friends for about a year. About three months ago, I realized that I had a crush on him, but kept mum because I was in a terrible emotional place (aftermath of a messy breakup). Said goodbye for the summer, have kept in touch since through crazy-long +2000-word emails two to three times a week. Meanwhile, this summer has been almost freakishly blissful: my job is wonderful and fulfilling, I've been making new friends and having adventures, and I've been doing a lot of self-reflection. I think I'm finally in an emotionally healthy place, and finally unafraid of being alone.
Then crush blows into town for three days earlier this week. Clearest signs I've ever gotten from him: he spends literally half of his time with me, we stay up talking one-on-one until 4am two nights out of three, his eyes seek mine out in groups, etc. Oh my. This isn't unusual for how we act, but I wasn't expecting it to be so concentrated! I haven't been able to think of anything else since he left four days ago. I like the feeling, but I dislike how it's crowded out everything else! I also think I'm now getting too invested, since I'm not absolutely certain that he's attracted to me and, even if he is, I don't want to get in too deep come fall.
How do I keep my cool during this month, and is there anything I should be doing to relish this last gasp of summer or set the scene for fall? I'm probably just going to keep on doing what I've been doing w/r/t keeping in contact with him (since the long emails worked for something), and I'm more interested in what I should do with myself. This question
is sort of similar, but most of the answers run along the lines of "do recon/don't do this"; I know he's a wonderful guy, and our mutual friends agree (the ones who know about my crush keep pushing me to make out with him already).
This is a great problem to have, but I'd still love your advice! Thanks for reading through and answering.