Leave Me Alone
August 11, 2011 9:54 PM Subscribe
How can I tell my ex-academic supervisor to leave me alone?
posted by moorooka to education (16 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
While I was doing my masters degree, I agreed that when it was finished I would work on a paper with him. I never really wanted to, but he was my supervisor at the time, and I couldn't really say no. So I agreed, and thought that I'd cross that bridge when I got to it. Now I've graduated and am teaching casually at the university, with no plans to ever do anymore research, ever.
Having experienced freedom for the first time in ages, I realize now that I'd rather shoot myself then follow through on what I agreed to do, but it's too late now, and he's getting impatient. I didn't want to disappoint him and when I saw him the other day I was too meek to tell him I wanted out and instead I cemented the commitment. Now I'm kicking myself.
There's nothing in it for me except time-wasting boredom on a subject I don't find remotely interesting, working on a paper that will inevitably be rejected (the guy is deluded and thinks there is something worth publishing when there definitely isn't). I don't know where to get the guts to front up and back out of it, and I feel miserable.