How can I help someone who is being driven to (self-inflicted) violence by the economy?
August 11, 2011 11:11 AM Subscribe
Please advise me on how to help a friend whose reaction to the stock market situation is alarming to me.
posted by anonymous to human relations (19 answers total)
Someone I care about confessed that he had to get stitches in his hand today after punching the wall in a rage about the stock market.
I have never seen evidence of him having a bad temper, or a tendency toward violence, in the 20 years we've known each other. I don't know the specifics about his financial situation, but clearly this is causing him great personal distress; it's not just frustration with our politicians or anything that general.
What would you recommend I do or say? I don't want to belittle his concerns, or give platitudes that this will all even out eventually and that there are so many other great things in his life to be thankful for... but I also don't want to dismiss this as a non-issue, because punching a wall that hard seems to me to be a Very Bad Sign.
We're going to talk tomorrow and I do think he trusts my judgment and views me as supportive to him, so I'd like to do as much good as I can in that call. I don't know how much he will reveal to me about the specific financial peril he may be in (he is rather proud), though obviously he has revealed plenty by his actions alone. I am not close with his wife but certainly assume that she is even more worried, and likely to do much more direct good, than I can. I really have no experience with people who handle stress in such a physical way (I realize how lucky that makes me), and I would be very grateful for any advice you can provide.