the lord is testing me.
August 10, 2011 10:02 PM Subscribe
My new roommate assured me during our initial interview of each other that she was very clean and that, in particular, she was committed to keeping communal spaces very neat and tidy. Fast forward a few months, and somehow I think I missed something.
posted by iLoveTheRain to human relations (32 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Basically the issue is this. Roommate told me she was super clean, and for the most part she is, but she has a tendency to...
a) leave drawers, cabinets, and closets wide open without closing them
b) leave large quantities of raw food scraps on the counter after cooking (that, if I don't notice them in time, often become baked on and almost impossible to remove)
c) not remove rotting food from the fridge after it's gone bad
d) take the trash out only when it's overflowing, not when it's starting to smell
I get that clean means different things to different people, but given the size of our small kitchen, it's hard to come home and realize that the sink's inaccessible due to dishes being there for days, or smack my ankle/hip/wrist/face on an open cabinet for the umpteenth time because it's been left open. I can close doors. I can deal with the occasional spill. It's the trash, food, and dishes stuff that is just not flying for me. I mean, for crying out loud, her HAIR somehow manages to make its way into our fridge and stove, and that is all kinds of gnarly gross for me. If I have dishes soaking in my side of the sink, she thinks nothing of rinsing all her food off of her plates onto it all, thereby re-dirtying all my clean, soaking dishes. She does this if she's been sick, too. My brain cannot deal.
How can I ask this gal to revisit our household's definition of clean when I thought "very neat and tidy" was pretty clear to begin with? I just want dishes, trash, and messes to be cleaned up promptly (as in within one day; before it smells; and right away, respectively). Additionally, given that she very rarely responds to emails and texts, how would YOU want to be told, "Yo, your mess is messing with my sanity. The kitchen is sacrosanct -- please kick up the cleanliness level asap!"
Additionally, I am so grateful the bathroom is kept clean, and that our bedrooms are separate, so yes, I am counting my blessings, but no, moving is not an option because everything else is kosher.