These butterflies are making me want to puke rainbows.
August 4, 2011 10:38 AM Subscribe
This is crazy. Help me sort out these butterfly-feelings.
posted by anonymous to human relations (26 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
I feel so ridiculous posting this. I will try to write this as objectively as possible. So, I met this guy on a dating website that rhymes with "pee marmony". We met up for casual drinks for an hour or two and conversation was so ridiculously easy. We walked around a little then he looks at me funny, pauses and says that we should do this again sometime and I said yes. Then hugged goodbye. I started walking up the sidewalk and could feel my stomach in my throat.
He calls later that week and we end up getting together a few days later and have a drink, then have a nice dinner, then have another drink, then kiss. It was pretty awesome.
The next day I'm out with friends and he manages to meet up with us (with one of his friends too). He tells me I'm pretty and kisses me. We all hang out and my friends head home. Me and him and his friend move along to another bar, have a great time dancing and such. Somewhere along the way, his friend leaves. Him and I head back to his place and after chit-chatting we have incredible sex (albeit a little drunk). The next morning I wake up in his arms and we just hang out all day until 4pm, more sex, make breakfast together, he tells me I'm beautiful, I tell him I'm really glad I met him, more sex, talk all morning long, shower, etc. There was was one point during sex where we were just staring into each other's eyes. Then there was another point where he's looking into my eyes and describing them to me...ok, I'll stop now because I want to punch myself in the face.
Anyway, he called last night and wants to get together again for dinner on Sunday (read: worknight). I said yes.
WHY do I feel like I'm going to puke?! I definitely have the butterflies. I'm worried that I'm going to get burned. How do I know (other than asking him) this wasn't just a hook up? What the hell do I do to manage this feeling so that I can at least try to think straight and just manage my day to day life right now? He won't get out of my head!!
I'm 31. He's 34. Both of us have all logistical life-lights green (both own houses, both have well-paying jobs, both have awesome friends/family, both have interests that are unique to our ourselves, but have a lot of shared interests).
So, I was reading on here that when you "just know" you "just know" and I fully used to believe that this was malarky. However, when you "just know" how do you not lose your shit, not scare the other person off, and not get all worried about getting your heart broken. Again.??? How do I know if he's on the same page (other than time) and how do I not blurt out something stupid? This is a tough one.
Also, any anecdotes/stories are also great appreciated.