Keep friction to a minimum.
August 4, 2011 5:53 AM Subscribe
Help me keep conflict between my roommates to a minimum.
posted by mean cheez to human relations (13 answers total)
I bought a 3-bedroom house and moved in one year ago, always with the intention of renting out the other rooms to help pay the mortgage. Initially, I lived with one (now former) friend and a random person from craigslist. We didn't really get along, and the random guy moved out without notice in January. I shrugged and quickly found another, only to discover he was an avid pot smoker who did nothing but sit in his room and watch Netflix all day.
Basically, since I've moved in, I haven't enjoyed my roommates. Until June, when I kicked the two roommates out (with a month's notice) and brought in two of my best friends. We all get along really well, stay clean, and are very respectful of personal space.
Now, I had another guy move in last minute at the same time. He's my brother's former roommate—so I knew he was a good guy—and his housing plans fell through at the last minute, so I converted the basement into another bedroom and moved him in there.
There wasn't much friction at first, but over the past few weeks it's surfaced. Last-Minute Man isn't as clean as he should be, and he's very emotionally needy, meaning we've had some personal space issues. This is a little annoying to me, though palatable, but the other two hate it. They've started talking about him behind his back constantly, and they force smaller issues—like forgetting to clean the stove after use—into a full on confrontation.
Last-Minute Man takes this very personally and responds by telling me if it continues he'll move out. I like living with him, and I can deal with a little encroachment on my personal space, and I don't want to have to find another roommate.
They talked last night, so some of the issues might be resolved, but I'd like to be proactive and keep the situation from deteriorating. Has anyone lived in a similar situation—all good people but clashing personalities? I don't want to have to keep the peace, but any small suggestions I could give either of them to keep friction to a minimum would be perfect. Thanks!