Not sure how to deal with family drama!
August 2, 2011 2:20 PM Subscribe
How do I avoid a potentially upsetting and tricky family situation in an already stressful event?
posted by snowysoul to human relations (19 answers total)
Some details: I'm leaving for Norway for a year on Thursday, and my parents/boyfriend are coming to the airport to see me off. While I am super excited about studying abroad, I am already stressed and sad about leaving my boyfriend until Christmas (we will be just dandy, it will be hard but we've done the long distance thing before) and from past experiences, anticipate that I will be an emotional wreck at the airport (which is also just fine by me). Parents are fine with this.
Here's the problem: My movement restricted grandparents have somehow decided to come along, and have decided that I will drive them to the airport and my boyfriend will drive them back. Normally, I would be happy to have them along, but right now my Grandpa has mobility issues, is extremely grumpy, and will add a large amount of stress to an already difficult situation (i.e. yelling at me to get on the plane before I'm ready....its been done before). My Grandpa cannot drive right now, and Nana refuses to drive through Toronto. I am also upset that they have decided that I would drive them without asking when in all honesty, I would rather spend my last hour with my boyfriend.
Other problem: My mom and my grandparents (her parents) are not on the greatest of terms right now (external family drama that has nothing to do with me) and has told me flat out that my grandparents are not coming. There's a number of factors for this, but mainly that having my grandpa there would cause stress and friction for all people around. Not sure if she has talked to my grandparents about this.
So, stuck between my parents and grandparents in an awkward place, what should I do? Should I leave them to sort it out and deal with the consequences? Hoping to find a solution that makes everyone happy, but I am not seeing it at this point.