Mediated divorce advice?
May 26, 2005 3:58 PM Subscribe
What exactly is the job of a divorce mediator? Do I have unreasonable expectations? Or does our mediator just suck?
posted by Gucky to Law & Government (9 answers total)
So, the consensus on the street is to avoid litigation and use a divorce mediator. Except, well, I'm starting to get the feeling that the mediator we chose is useless.
He asked us if we had read all the books on how to file your own divorce the first time we met. He expects us to have all the paperwork done when we show up and offers no guidance when I have questions. When I call to ask for clarification, he tells me to just "cross it out and write what I want." Not really reassuring when it comes to legally pending documents.
Is a mediator just a paper filing legal guy? Is me asking him questions without my ex around violating something? Or does this guy just suck?
Is it possible to work through the paperwork with a lawyer without going the litigation route?
Should I just slog through it rather than paying yet more money for my own lawyer?
And if not, how the heck do I go from "wow, there are a lot of divorce lawyers in this phone book" to finding the right lawyer to help me out with all this stuff?