Doctor says "don't work" but finances say otherwise
July 28, 2011 4:57 PM Subscribe
My doctor doesn't think I should work, but our family finances are dire. Everything I've heard says that disability is not likely for me. Now what?
posted by Biblio to health & fitness (22 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
For the past 10 or so ears, I've worked part-time in my profession. This was good for our family when the kids were younger, and we were able to survive. During this time I suffered from the depression that has plagued me since childhood, so a limited schedule was good for me too.
About a year ago, we decided to move to a more expensive house in a nicer town. I was the driving force behind this and agreed with my husband that I would seek a job with more hours in our new area to help with the mortgage.
The move went fine, I had a ton of interviews but nothing came of them. I became more depressed. Changed meds, felt a bit better and finally got a job...then the position was cut after 3 months for budget reasons.
The next 2 months were the worst of my life. I barely moved out of bed. I continued to apply and interview, but my heart wasn't in it. Finally I checked myself into a psych hospital where I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I stayed there a week, and then did a partial hospital program for 3 weeks.
For the most part I am feeling better, however my med regime is still in flux. My new outpatient psych does not want me to work while I am getting stable. My husband, however, is freaking out about our finances, since we've now had to add in all these hospital bills, weekly appointments and blood tests.
We've tightened up our budget as much as we can, but it's still clear we need more income. I have two jobs to apply for, and one seems to be perfect for me, but it's full time. The last thing I want is to take a job in my field and then have another breakdown, especially since I generally work with kids. I could apply for an hourly retail job, but I'm not sure how much I'd have to work in order to make up the shortfall in our budget.
All of this stressing is taking a toll. I've caught myself sliding into a mixed state a few times, and my daytime napping has increased. Today I had the first inklings of the kind of paranoia I used to experience. My doc is on vacation, but I will call his office tomorrow to see if I can see someone else.
In the meantime, I don't know what to do. Is it true that it is a very long and difficult process to get on disability for mental illness? Do I need a lawyer? How much does that cost?
I know this is a randomly composed tl;dr, but my mind is all over the place right now. Thanks for reading and for any insight you have.