How to have vaginal sex with an obese man?
July 25, 2011 4:58 PM Subscribe
Sexual positions for the obese.
My husband is obese, close to 600 lbs. I am much smaller than him and very limber. We have been married for ten years and in that time we have never had intra-vaginal sex that lasts longer than three minutes.
We have attempted to have sex with me on top facing forward and backward but due to his size I frequently slip off of him or my hips begin to hurt from trying to wrap my legs around him. We have tried to do it doggy-style so that his stomach can rest on my back (vaginal and anal) but he lacks physical endurance and cannot thrust for very long at all.
Mostly I spend a lot of our sexual time performing oral sex on him, which he enjoys. He usually brings me to orgasm with a Hitachi magic wand. We have various sex wedge things but none of them seem to help him find the right way to be inside of me. I would like for us to find positions that work so that I can have the kind of sex that *I* enjoy and haven't experienced fully in over a decade.
If you have questions I can be reached at anonywife at gmail.
My husband is obese, close to 600 lbs. I am much smaller than him and very limber. We have been married for ten years and in that time we have never had intra-vaginal sex that lasts longer than three minutes.
We have attempted to have sex with me on top facing forward and backward but due to his size I frequently slip off of him or my hips begin to hurt from trying to wrap my legs around him. We have tried to do it doggy-style so that his stomach can rest on my back (vaginal and anal) but he lacks physical endurance and cannot thrust for very long at all.
Mostly I spend a lot of our sexual time performing oral sex on him, which he enjoys. He usually brings me to orgasm with a Hitachi magic wand. We have various sex wedge things but none of them seem to help him find the right way to be inside of me. I would like for us to find positions that work so that I can have the kind of sex that *I* enjoy and haven't experienced fully in over a decade.
If you have questions I can be reached at anonywife at gmail.
Big Big Love: A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and Those Who Love Them by Hanne Blank is an amazing resource for fat folks and their partners. There's a chapter dealing specifically with sexual positions. The rest of the book is more generally about self acceptance and understanding sexuality generally as a fat person.
posted by kimdog at 5:31 PM on July 25, 2011 [6 favorites]
posted by kimdog at 5:31 PM on July 25, 2011 [6 favorites]
How about a strap-on that goes over his leg or arm? That would perhaps allow a bit more positional versatility.
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 5:58 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 5:58 PM on July 25, 2011
I wonder if a bondage sling or chair would give you two some useful options.
posted by not that girl at 6:26 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
posted by not that girl at 6:26 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
Seconding Hanne Blank's book, it's great regarding sexual positions and much, much more.
posted by Wuggie Norple at 6:59 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Wuggie Norple at 6:59 PM on July 25, 2011
I was also coming in here to recommend Hanne's book. It's currently out of print but a new edition is coming out this fall!
posted by jaksemas at 10:26 AM on July 26, 2011
posted by jaksemas at 10:26 AM on July 26, 2011
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posted by tumid dahlia at 5:18 PM on July 25, 2011