How do I handle a toxic work situation?
July 20, 2011 8:43 AM Subscribe
How do I handle this toxic work situation?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (23 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I work on a team with two other people (a male and female) and a boss. We all work very closely together in the same office (including boss).
I've found that the female team member has been withholding information from me (intentionally) that pertains to our projects. So basically when we have a team meeting about projects we are working on, I don't have all of the info required to actively participate in said meeting. The rest of the team (including the boss) has already received the info either by email or in person. Information comes from other departments or other companies.
Some background info - I joined the team at the same time as the female, but I have a year more experience in my job and two years of experience working on this type of project where the female had none. She consistently asks me for help in projects we are working on. It's not in my nature to refuse to help someone if they ask.
Both mine and female's positions on the team are temporary, with the possibility of one of the positions becoming permanent in the future. Because I've been on the job longer and have more experience, I will likely get the permanent position. Her temporary position is likely to last until next summer.
I love my position, and have worked very hard at the company to obtain it. Changing teams is not an option at this point.
The boss is somewhat aware of this situation - yesterday I politely mentioned that I wasn't made aware of new info received last week in front of the boss.
1. Talk to her privately about what's going on
2. Call a team meeting and air the dirty laundry
3. Ignore it and do the best I can without all of the info
I don't want to cause a big blow up at work, but this sneaky, underhanded behaviour is impacting both work life and home life. I want to take the high road and be the bigger person here.
Sorry about the length and thanks in advance!