How do I find a job after my last termination?
July 18, 2011 11:49 AM Subscribe
I know you're not my lawyer or a lawyer at all.. but I need some help. Recently lost my job due to an alcohol-related relapse that happened off work hours. How do I move on from this?
posted by somersault to Work & Money (34 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
As backstory, my boss found out about my relapse after a significant period of sobriety because he was calling me off hours and I answered my personal cell phone. I sounded drunk. My relapse never affected my work performance, responsibilities or ability to show up (my boss even conceded this when I was terminated). The reason why I was terminated was because it was a small firm and he thought it would be unhealthy for everyone else to be around me during my struggles.
My former employment and I had an awkward separation which turned into a disastrous one due to some misplaced work files on my part (which I returned promptly after notified). Bridges were burnt and I know that the separation is not copacetic.
I spoke to a lawyer and she said that this could easily fall under grounds for unlawful termination. I'm not interested in pursuing that. I don't want to fuel the fire. I just want to move on and get my feet under me again with my newly established sobriety. The lawyer also said something about just sending him a letter warning him against character defamation but that seems passive aggressive and sneaky.
So, here are my questions.. this job provided me with some important experience and skills.. should I still list it in my resume? Am I legally obligated to? How do I explain this massive blip during interviews? What are employers legally allowed to say when contacted? I'm obviously not providing my employer as a personal reference but should I even list him as work experience? Is he going to unleash a volcano of wrath? In my previous experience with him, he doesn't play by the rules (i.e. termination). Ugh, I'm letting my fears and emotions outweigh the facts, so I guess what I'm trying to do is gather the facts.. Any personal experience is welcomed as well.
Btw, I'm thinking of just pursuing retail jobs for now so nothing too overly ambitious... or is this even way above my abilities/work experience at this point? It seems like it might be the best fit temporarily. I'm a mid-twenties college educated person and have always remained with employers for 2+ years. I'm feeling a little defeated about everything in my life even before I begin so.. how do I move on from this?