, what resources can I forward to my family member, now that he is off the streets?
Check out the other question if you want some background info, but long story short: I have a family member who became homeless at the start of the year. While he was given some assistance by family members who live in his state*, and spent some time going in and out of their guest rooms (and sometimes in and out of shelters), he spent the last six months living out of his car and trying to fend off total disaster.
Good news is that he's been employed for a couple of months now and has moved into an apartment. Thank god.
Bad news is that he has obviously been affected by the ordeal. We were having a conversation on the phone, and it is quite apparent to me that this has been a trauma to him (of course it has!). He talks about how he feels shell-shocked, overwhelmingly angry, unsure of what to do. I told him that all these reactions were understandable, given his situation, and encouraged him to see a therapist when it will be possible (probably not until his health insurance kicks in).
In the meantime, what resources could I forward to him? Websites? Books?
This thread has the exact theme I would like to guide your thinking, but I am looking for non-fiction, therapeutic books.
This thread had some resources, but I am not sure if only sending him PTSD literature would be helpful, as I am not a therapist, and I don't know what would be the best read for his situation. Also, while my first impulse is to get him a book, he would probably be more likely to sit down and read a information on a website, so any good online sources might be more useful to him.
Obviously, books on recovering from homelessness would be ideal, but any other readings/ideas that you think would be appropriate would be helpful, as well.
* Much of the familial help that I was hoping he was getting was disjointed, at best, or neglectful, at worst. And those who wanted to do the most for him were either across the country or in another country all together, which hindered a lot of our efforts. I think the (perceived, or not) lack of support this is contributing to his feelings, so it may be something your suggestions might possibly consider.
In the case of the person I know, what seems to help most is when he spends time with people living a lifestyle that is more like what he used to be accustomed to - not just living day to day and waiting for food and trying to occupy time - people who live a relatively stable life, and, most importantly, people who really care about him, which it sounds like he lacks.
Would it be possible to visit him, and maybe you could see first hand if there are any habits that seem to have stuck from when he was homeless? Maybe you could kind of take the lead for a day or two, cook some meals with him, make sure he's not taking 6 showers a day and whatnot?
posted by wondermouse at 8:09 PM on July 17, 2011 [1 favorite]