Chinese and Indian Interracial dating
July 10, 2011 10:58 PM Subscribe
Is it really that big a deal for a Chinese and an Indian to be dating/potentially getting married?
posted by picarosado to Human Relations (26 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I'm an Indian girl who has been dating a Chinese boy for three years. We're both American citizens who moved to the US around the age of 7-8... We met in high school and were good friends... started dating after we reconnected years later.
His dad has a huge issue with us, mainly due to me being Indian. It's frustrating having someone dislike for something like that. He can't pinpoint anything wrong with my personality or me in general, besides the fact that I come from a country competing with China.
I've visited China and found so many similarities in culture and upbringing... They hold a lot of the same basic philosophies.
I spoke to a Chinese girl friend once and she said her parents would prefer her to be with an Indian over other races, because they find our cultures more similar and they respect that they're on the same playing field...
My bf's dad sees it completely differently. Due to the bitterness between India and China and the fact that they've been in wars, not to mention they're competing, he doesn't understand how my bf could be with me. But although our parents come from other countries, we are still American and plan to settle here. I think his dad doesn't make any sense, given the way we've been raised, and as understanding as I try to be, I get more irritated at the fact that instead of seeing how loving and happy we are with each other, it's about half my culture.
His dad would prefer my bf to be with a white American over an Indian any day.
Any advice on how to deal with this would be greatly appreciated.