Memorial ideas for ten years after a parent's suicide
July 10, 2011 3:41 PM Subscribe
This December it will be ten years since my father committed suicide. My mother, brother and I have started talking about ways to observe the anniversary, but we're not sure how.
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In the decade since my father died, my immediate family - mother, brother and myself - have all rebuilt our lives, and we're all happy and healthy. My mother has remarried, my brother has got married, we've all moved and got new jobs and good friends.
We'd really like to mark the passing of time, and perhaps do something constructive and/or creative. We're just not sure what...
In terms of remembering him, we've done very little that's structured: the year after he died, the three of us went away for Christmas, spending it on the other side of the world (my father loved travelling, and family holidays are our best memories), but since then we've not done anything official or organised to remember him as a group (though we all visit the grave to lay flowers on our own; it's some way from where we all live, so we go in our own time).
We've all come to terms with it as best we can, and we talk about him sometimes, but as I say, nothing structured. As the ten year anniversary comes up, we've all mentioned we'd like to do "something", we're just not sure what. So that's what I'm here to ask for...
Couple of things to bear in mind:
My mother is religious, but my brother and I are not. We're in the UK, so December will be cold and bleak - not ideal for outdoor things, and the cemetery will be especially bleak.
Thanks very much for your help.