My mother-in-law just got a serious cancer diagnosis and will likely have less time with us than we thought. How can I make sure that my daughter knows her even if she isn't around?
My mother-in-law is one of my favorite people. A few days ago her doctors discovered a large tumor in her lung that cannot be removed surgically. There is hope that she'll be able to live a few years with chemo treatment, but the long-term odds are frightening.
My husband and I are distraught at this news, but we are especially sad that our baby daughter will likely miss the chance to get to know her grandma. She is only four months old, so there is a chance she won't have any memories of this wonderful person of her own. She's an only grandchild for now and she is loved quite fiercely by her grandmother.
To my mother-in-law's credit, she sounds upbeat and ready for a fight and she's otherwise in good athletic shape. She's in her early sixties and spry. We'll be visiting this weekend so we can see her before the chemo starts, and for now she has lots of energy.
What can we do to make some family memories that will take us into the future? I scheduled a whole family photo session for Sunday. I love this AskMe answer,
especially the idea of hiring a journalist to take down her life story and dictating birthday letters. But what do we do about grandkids who haven't been born yet? Should they get personal messages, too?
Also, how do we ask such a big favor? Right now I feel like I'd be saying "Hi! You're DYING so please do this mound of homework. KTHXBYE!"
Ideally, I would have all of my daughter's grandparents and one remaining great grandparent do the same thing, but time is precious right now for my mother-in-law, so we're trying to focus on her.
We will be in Omaha, NE, so any answers that are centric to that area would be welcome. Especially if they pertain to areas that are not currently flooded by the Missouri River.