What is going on with this lump in my genitalia? (female) Does this sound like an STD or something else?
Every so often I get something that feels like an ingrown hair on my mons pubis, about two inches above my clitoris. It's an itchy red lump like a pimple that is painful if I put any pressure on it. It goes away in about a week. It does not ooze or scab over. It is always in the same place and I don't get it anywhere else. I was thinking it might be herpes, but it does not look like this, though (gross pictures
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I don't know if this is related but sometimes very specific parts of my genitalia get super sensitive, especially underneath my clitoris ( by underneath I mean towards my vagina). It hurts to be touched. But this does not necessarily correlate with the appearance of the lump.
The reason I no longer think it's an ingrown hair is because I stopped trimming or shaving my pubic area. It's been months and I just got another one of these things. I've had it for 4-5 days and now it's going away. My pubic hair is not unusually kinky or curly for a white person.
My husband and I both have HSV-1 (oral) and he gets blisters on his mouth more often than I do. I have never noticed anything on his genitals and he's never complained about them. I have never cheated on him and I do not believe he has cheated on me. We have been together for 7 years. I did some really stupid risky things before I met him and I have been tested for more serious STDs like HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis (all clean). I am not pregnant and never have been. He has had many less partners than I have and has never had sex with anyone else without a condom. He is kind of paranoid about STDs.
Any ideas what this is?
I don't want to go to our family doctor because if it's NOT an STD I don't want to scare my husband unnecesarily. So where should I get tested? I'm in the US and i have health insurance through my husband's company.
If it IS an STD then how do I approach this with my husband? my main fear is that he will be angry that I haven't dealt with this before, but it honestly did not occur to me that it could be anything more than an ingrown hair. I don't think he will think I cheated, but I don't want to plant a seed of mistrust either. Our marriage has had other problems lately and I'm really worried about adding one more thing. I am sort of freaking out.