Not a pothead pe se, but...
June 10, 2011 1:32 PM Subscribe
I need help understanding and accepting my partner's daily use.
posted by anonymous to human relations (48 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
My partner smokes pot pretty much every day. It doesn't affect our lives adversely—his career is steady and stable, he's a mature and caring partner, there is no risky behavior associated with getting or using the pot. He uses it mostly to relax and sometimes for low-level pain management, pretty much how other people might have a drink once they're done for the day. He doesn't get overly goofy or make bad decisions on it. Honestly, I can't necessarily tell if he's smoked or not most of the time.
So, pretty much a best-case scenario for incorporating substances into your life. It still bothers me a little, though. I worry about getting stopped in the car when he has a little pot with him. Traveling by air always becomes kind of a thing, unless he knows he has a source where we're going. I wonder a little if it'a affecting his motivation levels—there hasn't been a whole lot of growth, career-wise. And worst of all, I feel a kind of low-level petty resentment—my work feeds and houses us, and if I wanted to smoke every day, I couldn't—we have random drug tests.
I'm actually a theoretical advocate for legalization—I recognize that pot is pretty much harmless, and most of the consequences associated with it are a result of it being illegal, not necessarily inherent to the substance. I don't smoke much much myself—I can't without risking my job, but anyway I don't like it very much. To each his own. But why does this bother me so much, and how can I become more accepting? Anecdotes about being a habitual smoker for decades and your life turning out just dandy are welcome. Suggestions and advice for dealing with practical concerns or frameworks for responsible use are welcome, too.