Is an intervention needed on these tacky stagette plans?
June 2, 2011 11:51 AM Subscribe
My friend (let's call her Amanda) is having a stagette, which is being planned by a completely different group of friends from the ones that we share. She's known these ladies since childhood, and I hardly know them at all. I feel like Amanda's friends are planning a stagette that goes strongly against Amanda's taste and wishes. Should I say something to the party planners? If so, how? (more inside)
posted by owlparliament to human relations (48 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I've only known Amanda for about six years, however, we were roommates for two of them. I feel like I know her very well. Being single ladies, we would often attend weddings and then share our opinions on what we liked or didn't like about the whole affair. Amanda's tastes tend to run on the conservative and classy side.
I know that she's requested that the stagette err on the side of the demure, and that this event is being planned by her high school friends without any input from Amanda. I was invited to the stagette via Facebook and have seen the evolution of this event. What started out as a potluck and backyard beers has now metastasized into a potluck with a Hummer limo picking us up (at $50/person), ferrying us to various bars, and the possibility of a male stripper.
I don't really care what we do, as I realize that it's her stagette and not mine. However, I really don't think that the Hummer limo and male stripper thing is really up Amanda's alley (she is a pretty ardent bicycle commuter and women's rights advocate. She also embarasses rather easily and generally likes to keep a low profile. It just doesn't seem quite right). I suspect that she has involved these people as a way to be inclusive to her old highschool friends even though their collective tastes have deviated considerably in the last few years. Should I say something to the party planners? Or Amanda? Any advice on how to navigate this, if I should at all, would be greatly appreciated.