How to manage emotions in super-long-distance relationship?
May 29, 2011 2:07 PM Subscribe
How do I deal with an extended period of time abroad without my significant other?
posted by barbudo to Human Relations (9 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm currently studying in a foreign country very far from my own. In general, I don't feel very homesick. My problem is that I am in a relationship that became very intense right before my departure. We had planned to "take a break" for the duration of my time abroad, about 3 months, but after a week I decided I didn't want to do that so my counterpart and I are going to stick it out.
However, in the time since making this decision I have begun to feel a deep loneliness and longing for this person. It's making the time pass -very- slowly. I'd like to just enjoy my time here but I can't really get my mind off this person. I'm going through intense ups and downs. I don't really want to address too much of this with my partner for fear of appearing manipulative or overbearing. I just want to find some way to manage my emotions to make this time go as quickly as possible. I don't have much experience with committed relationships and I've never really felt this way before. Just focusing on my work is not an option; my workload is minimal. It's basically like an extended vacation that I'm stuck on.
Oh, and I can't seek professional help here. I don't speak the language well enough.