Are all hospitals like this?
May 24, 2011 11:56 PM Subscribe
How can I make the most of a loved one's unwanted hospital stay? I want him to get the best care possible, I want to avoid insurance conflicts, I want to support his recovery efforts, and I want to avoid going insane.
posted by croutonsupafreak to Health & Fitness (22 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
The short version:
What can I do to support my husband as he recovers?
How can I most effectively advocate for my husband and make sure he gets the best care the hospital can provide?
How can I take care of myself so that I don't go insane?
What should I do at this point to make sure that everything is covered by insurance and that this experience doesn't bankrupt us?
The long version:
My husband had appendicitis. We arrived in the ER Friday night, he had surgery Saturday morning, and was checked in to a room in the "Trauma Recovery and Acute Care Unit." Complications are extending his stay. He's in a huge amount of pain, unable to get a good night's sleep because nurses have to take his vitals every few hours, and he's often doped up and confused. What can I do to support my husband as he recovers?
The hospital staff check on him regularly and clearly mean well, but they're busy and they keep missing things - not noticing that he hadn't eaten for 24 hours, forgetting to give him pain meds for eight hours, only realizing that his oxygen levels were abnormally low after I expressed concern about his breathing. I'm trying to stay educated about his condition by asking lots of questions of the nurses and - on the rare occasions when I can pin them down - the doctors. I'm also spending a lot of time on WebMD and Wikipedia. How can I most effectively advocate for my husband and make sure he gets the best care possible?
This is the first medical crisis I've had to deal with single-handedly, and it's freaking me out. I really miss having my healthy, happy, normal husband around. I'm spending every minute I can at the hospital. I'm eating junk because I don't have time to cook, doing twice as many chores because he's not here to back me up, and feeling stressed at the hospital, distracted at work and lonely at home. Plus, my best friend is hurting and I can't fix it and that is stressing me out. How can I take care of myself so that I don't go insane?
My husband has pretty good insurance, I think, but we haven't really been in touch with the insurance company about this situation. I verified that the emergency room we went to was accepted by his plan before we headed there, but I don't know if that coverage automatically carries over once you're out of the ER and into the recovery area. What should I do at this point to make sure that everything is covered by insurance and that this experience doesn't bankrupt us?