How do I not feel like my whole life revolves around my job?
May 21, 2011 11:40 AM Subscribe
I'm up for several jobs that have slightly longer hours than I'm used to, and I'm getting bummed out by the idea of potentially being a slave to the job. How do I get over this and not feel like my whole life revolves around my job?
posted by gchucky to Work & Money (24 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
I hope this question doesn’t come out too petulant. When I was right out of school, I took a job that was 9-5 and paid what was (at the time) a fine salary. I left that job several years later, and when I was on the job market I found out that I was worth quite a bit more than what I was being paid.
Nearly all the positions I’ve gotten offers for have been longer hours - 9-6 or 9-7 or something. It’s becoming increasingly apparent to me that most people in my field don’t work 40 hour weeks anymore. The problem I’m having is an internal one: that I can’t get over the feeling that I’m going to be a slave to my job. Assuming a 45 minute commute in either direction, that means that I only have a few hours after work to do my own thing before I have to go to sleep and start the whole thing over again the next day. I guess I’m setting myself up for feeling miserable about any job I take with these sorts of hours.
So I guess what I’m asking you guys is this: how do I stop myself from feeling like I’m stuck in the rat race? How do I get over the feelings of loss of self and realize that it’s really not as bad as I’m making it out to be?
(Sorry if this question is really nebulous; if clarification is needed I'll try to answer.)