Begone, Green-Eyed Fiend!!
May 20, 2011 2:05 PM Subscribe
How do I let go of my jealousy?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (26 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
A close friend of mine just got what is essentially my dream job. I'm really happy for her, but at the same time I can't help feeling twinges of jealousy. I think this partly has to do with the fact that:
1) people around me are going through new and exciting transitions in their life, and it makes me feel restless/makes me want something to happen for me, too.
2) this dream job comes with a bit more prestige than my current job in the industry. It would definitely help her toward becoming a more "recognized name" in the industry. I guess the reputation is appealing.
3) I guess maybe I'm also kind of afraid of failure...like she was talented enough to get the position, but am I?
I currently have a very nice job, which I love...a great place to work and great co-workers (which I know is not to be taken lightly). I know that even if I were in her shoes now I have no idea whether I would like this new job better or worse. I could hypothetically end up preferring my current job, or feeling restless even at this 'dream job'. Also, this dream position has an annual application period (that I missed this year due to work busy-ness), so I also know that it's kind of a timing issue, and I could always hone my skills and apply next year.
So really, I should not feel that jealous at all. But I do (and I feel terrible about it)! Because this is actually happening for her, right now.
She's a wonderful and talented friend and I'm so excited for her, and I know that her being within the company can only benefit me in the future (as an industry connection)....so what are some things that I can tell myself to help keep the jealousy at bay? Anyone have any helpful mantras or thoughts to help dispel these feelings?