Where to discuss marital problems with other men?
May 18, 2011 11:07 AM   Subscribe

Can anyone recommend a website where I can get input from other men (and I'm not against input from women too) about problems I have with my wife with her excessive moodiness, total lack of interest in physical intimacy, and general verbally hostile and abusive ways? I'm thinking either a traditional forum or a more contemporary Q&A type site.
posted by Dansaman to Human Relations (9 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
 
How about this one?
posted by axismundi at 11:11 AM on May 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


Ask Metafilter is really probably the best place for this.
posted by fritley at 11:12 AM on May 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


The answer lies somewhere between "Ask metafilter" and "This really isn't something for random strangers, but a qualified professional."
posted by Tomorrowful at 11:13 AM on May 18, 2011 [21 favorites]


The No More Mr. Nice Guy forum might be helpful.
posted by headnsouth at 11:25 AM on May 18, 2011


You're looking at it.

Have to wait a week to ask now, though. But this is a good place.
posted by Justinian at 11:54 AM on May 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


I'd recommend avoiding misogynistic forums like that No More Mr. Nice Guy site. You aren't having problems with an entire gender, but with an individual; and the advice on that forum and other MRA type forums leans very strongly toward reinforcing resentments and intolerance. The men I've known who got sucked into that type of thinking did so in moments of weakness, when they were dealing with relationship problems. And every last one of them had had his anger and bitterness reinforced to the point that they were permanently miserable people.

Your wife is not a generic female. She's a complex individual with her own interests, motivations, biology, and psychology. And so are you.

Non gender segregated forums or support groups for people in emotionally abusive relationships might be helpful, but the ideal solution is one tailored to your unique individual needs, like couples counseling, or if she's not on board, individual counseling.
posted by ernielundquist at 12:20 PM on May 18, 2011 [22 favorites]


Mod note: folks - OP has asked for what they want, please either answer the question, explain why maybe it's not the right answer, or move on. OP is not asking for relationship advice at this time.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 12:26 PM on May 18, 2011


The Divorce Busting Forums have a discussion board about sex problems that is frequented by both men and women that you might find helpful, as well as boards on various other aspects of marital problems.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 12:58 PM on May 18, 2011


This is a good place for good advice.

Has she spoken to her physician? I ask because you pretty much just described me, prior to being put on anti-depressants.
posted by MissySedai at 9:13 PM on May 19, 2011


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