How to deal with absentee friend now returned?
May 15, 2011 5:18 PM Subscribe
Make up, let go, or put ball in other person's court: how to deal with absentee friend now returned?
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
A friend and I were close. I leaned on this friend for emotional support at one point, friend appeared to get uncomfortable and suddenly became too busy to ever hang out. Perhaps I asked a little too much of friend, but regardless I see friend's reaction as unacceptable.
Fast forward 1.5 years, and friend suddenly wants to be super-friendly. We met once a few weeks ago; I subtly alluded to what happened; friend reacted dismissively ("whatever"); I didn't press the issue. I'm still miffed, and I'm skeptical about talking about it more directly with friend because a discussion seems painful and possibly futile. I have doubts about friend's character and maturity. At the same time, at some level I still like some of friend's qualities. We haven't spoken since, though.
Should I let the friendship go, broach the topic deliberately, let friend expend energy to repair relationship if friend wants, or some other option?