Getting Grandma to Give up the Keys
May 13, 2011 4:16 PM Subscribe
My grandmother is getting too old to drive. We know it, but she doesn't. Any ideas of how to deal with this?
posted by blapst to Human Relations (23 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Some background: She's in her 80s. In the last 5 years she's been in two wrecks. One arguably wasn't her fault, but her car got totalled. In the other, she fell asleep at the wheel and drove into a ditch. Luckily no one was hurt.
Since then she's spent some time in the hospital and in rehab for various unrelated old people problems.
But now she's on the mend (relatively speaking) and wants to drive again.
Some family members are lobbying for her to take a drivers' test, others are threatening to have a state trooper friend come over give her a field sobriety test to prove she's not physically capable. Only one of us lives in the same state as her.
She has a hard time talking about it, because she's got that midwestern "everything's always fine" attitude and refuses to acknowledge problems. Also one of her friends stopped driving recently, and has been incredibly depressed ever since.
My feeling is we won't get her to listen if we humiliate or alienate her. Anyone have any experience with this issue and/or have any advice?