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May 11, 2011 9:56 AM Subscribe
What fun things can I do for my wife so studying for the California bar doesn't suck as much?
posted by captainawesome to Human Relations (17 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My wife and I got married six weeks ago, and moved from the Midwest out to Los Angeles so I could take an amazing job. Unfortunately, she's an attorney, and it turns out it's going to be pretty tough for her to find work here until she passes the California bar exam. So, she's taking it at the end of July. It's all a go - we've paid the (exorbitant) fees, she's got the study materials, and the studying starts tomorrow.
She's been a good sport, but unfortunately, studying for the bar really sucks. She passed the Missouri bar, four years ago, and was very much hoping she'd never have to go through the process again... and now she has to do it in California, a state notorious for having a longer and harder exam than just about anywhere else. Studying for this thing will be pretty much a full-time job for several months. And of course, she's only in California in the first place because I took a job here (though she has never breathed a word of complaint about that). She has a good attitude but it's clear that she's really, really not looking forward to this.
So... how can I help? What fun, nice, unexpected things can I do to surprise her and cheer her up over the next few months? These probably need to be things that don't take a lot of time and won't interrupt her preparation. I know nothing about law myself, so I probably can't help much with the studying itself, but I'd love ideas on what I can do for her to ease the pain of this process a little. I'm not that creative in these areas, so other than things like "cook dinner more" and "keep the house clean" I'm not coming up with much.
I should also say that I'm not that worried about the bar itself. We're not under any illusions - we know it's difficult and lots of people fail. But my wife is self-motivated, diligent, top 10% of her class from a top 20 law school, good at taking tests and writing essays, and of course she's taken the bar before. She'll do the work, and she'll do fine - I'm just interested in how I can make the next few months less sucky for her. Thanks for any ideas!