Is this what it's like to date while depressed?
May 7, 2011 6:30 AM Subscribe
I feel depressed and completely unmotivated by school. I think its correlated with the fact I'm in a new relationship.
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I started going to a university this spring, transferring from a community college. I only attend the classes for my major and ignore the rest, potentially failing three of my classes.
When I started dating my first boyfriend, I wasn't interested in any of my classes except for my major, which is political science. I didn't study for my exams, wrote papers in the absolute last minute, and did not care at all for school.
I'm now in a different relationship, and its the same thing. We've only been dating for about two months. In casual relationships, I was still depressed and unmotivated, but can force myself to do the work and study. Currently, I would feel anxious that I'm not getting stuff done and I try to tell myself to do the things I'm supposed to do. I would try to start the assignments but I just eventually give up and not care that I might fail or be in academic probation. I'm aware of the consequences, and I feel helpless.
I would also feel sad out of nowhere and I can't really pinpoint as to why. I wouldn't want to hang out anymore. I just feel like being by myself and not around anyone. This has happened to my ex and to my now current boyfriend.
I started going to counseling at my school, but I stopped after four sessions thinking I'm better. Is this a case of correlation does not imply causation? Are my relationship anxieties taking a strain on my school work? Or am I just lazy and need to get myself together? (I used to do well in school. 4.0 during my freshman year, 3.8 during the first half of my sophomore year and dropped to 3.1 the second half).