Getting sexual mojo back: monogamous female edition
May 6, 2011 10:35 AM Subscribe
I need inspiration for rekindling my dormant sexuality, now that motherhood is underway.
posted by misoramen to human relations (12 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I look good; I feel fine; everything is operational. But my head isn't in it. I am drawing blanks. I can't think of any fantasies. I would love to channel my inner _________, but I have no idea who that might be.
I'm late 30's, happily married, happy in general. But I feel like I have no vision for what (female) sexuality can be in this context. I did my experimenting. I found love. We explored far and wide within our relationship. Then we engaged with fertility and pregnancy and breastfeeding. And now I'm not sure what's next. And because I feel so unconnected to sexuality in general, when we try to get back into it, my mind wanders and I start feeling empty inside or overly tearful, even as earworms of children's songs play on a loop inside my head.
Mostly I'm looking for recommendations of things to read -- fiction, essays -- that might prove inspirational. Or if you've been through this and know what mental shift I need to make to get back in gear, I'm all ears.