an apopogy for the unforgivable
April 29, 2011 5:58 AM Subscribe
I've been invited to a wedding where I'm only going to know a couple of guests. One of them is a woman who has every right to hate my guts. Help me navigate this.
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We knew each other in college, and after graduation we had a one night stand. That was all she wanted, but I didn't get the memo.
My memory is poor about how this came about, but she invited me to visit her in her town some time after (a year later? More?). She made it clear enough this was just as friends. I very aggressively pursued anyway, and crossed many lines in doing so*. Somehow I recovered my senses in time to salvage the last day of the visit, but not surprisingly we haven't spoken since.
The bride knows none of this and is likely to seat us together.
I'm now in my late thirties with a family. (They won't be in attendance). I don't know anything about what life has brought her. She may be over the event but she has every right not to be. My goal is to at least give her the opportunity to avoid me, but hopefully make amends and be able to catch up as old friends.
1. Tell the bride to check with her before seating us together?
2. Attempt to email her and apologize in advance?
3. Just go and let the chips fall where they may?
... Or something else?
* I climbed into her bed unbidden and copped a feel before figuring out how way over the line I was. Yeah, I'd clock that schmuck too.