Help me with life choices!
April 25, 2011 8:45 AM Subscribe
Help me with my life problem! I want to move, my husband does not.
posted by sadieglass to Human Relations (38 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I grew up in the south and move to the Midwest where we now live. Every winter is like hell for me, summer I am a normal happy person. Once it gets cold, dark, dreary I have bad depression, anxiety, lethargy, ect. I am good from about April to October, but month after month of it I just can't handle! This past winter I really did try, tried to workout more, go outside during daylight hours, taking vitamins, eating healthy, ect. I am freezing all the time even when other people are warm. I know I have SAD and have taken lots of supplements short of anti-depressants.
When my husband got his bachelors he was willing to consider moving and applied for a few jobs out of state. He now has a good job at the University and doesn't want to ever leave cause he thinks he will work there forever and won't be able to get a job elsewhere. The job he has has nothing to do with his degree anyone could work there and build up to becoming a manager but because it is at the University the benefits and pay are hard to beat. I could move anywhere and make the same amount at my job. We are not making huge amounts of money but more than we have had, about $50k combined. He is just afraid of having to start over somewhere and build his pay back up, is not good with change either so the actual move would be stressful for him....
I like our town but feel like I shouldn't have to be miserable or on antidepressants the rest of my life just so we can be comfortable living here, I've lived here for over 10 years and I'm not getting "used to it" and can't "just get over it" which is what I'm used to being told by
everyone. We have been fighting about this constantly ever since he graduated 5 years ago, please help!!