Why do I cry so easily when I used to never cry?
April 20, 2011 9:13 AM Subscribe
Have you ever switched from being a stoic to being a crier? Could this be from treating my depression or something else?
I grew up under emotionally abusive parents and learned to be very private about expressing sadness or strong emotion. Movies, sad stories, fights with friends, none of these things visibly upset me enough to make me cry. I was a bit famous among my friends for being a robot and able to make jokes about the saddest things.
I am now in my mid-late twenties and that has changed abruptly in the past few years and only seems to be getting worse. Anything with strong emotion, sad or happy, can make me cry. And not just sad movies or stories, even imagining something sad or happy can set me off, like thinking about the feelings of a soldier returning home from war or what it must be like to lose a beloved pet. It isn't that these things make me sink into a dark pit of gloom, after a cry I recover quickly, it is just that I start feeling the emotion so strongly it becomes overwhelming. It is pretty embarrassing because I have held the belief it is better to hold my cards close to my chest when it comes to crying and my emotions.
It feels partly as if it is easier to cry, and partly like things affect me much more strongly than they used to. I have always been an extremely empathetic person, very good at imagining myself in someone else's shoes, but in the name of functioning normally I've been able to keep it in check and not feel their feelings too strongly. This is not possible anymore.
The strange thing is it seems to directly correlate with the treatment of my depression. A few years ago is about the same time I started to make many life-changes that helped my depression. I noticed crying started to get easier then. But the crying has really taken off since I started taking medication for the first time last year. The medication has been great and I feel 10,000% better and more functional in every way--except all of this crying. Shouldn't I cry even less now that I am not depressed?
Has anyone had this experience where they turned from someone who didn't cry to a crier? Is this normal? Can I make it stop?