Oh what I wouldn't do for a crystal ball
April 10, 2011 12:28 AM Subscribe
What do you do when doctors can't give you an answer? Like... whether or not you SHOULD try to have children?
posted by veryblue1 to health & fitness (30 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Let's say you have Condition Foo and Condition Bar. Condition Foo, which is somewhat understood, is treated by one group of specialists. Condition Bar, which is incredibly rare - especially with Condition Foo, is treated by another group of specialists.
You ask this question: "Should we try to have a child?"
Team Foo: You're low-med risk. It's really hard to say. First, you'll need to switch to this medication that may cause birth defects. It may - but it also very likely won't. We have had some women with Foo turn out just fine. But whatever you decide, we'll support you!! [in very upbeat voice]
Team Bar: It's really hard to say. I don't have a crystal ball. You can do some things to mitigate the risk.
You scour the internet and you find nothing that really relates to your situation. How do you make a decision?
Make the wrong decision, and you could end up with 2 deaths, or 2 significantly ruined lives. Make the wrong decision, and you could end up not having children despite the fact that you could've.
(Please don't reply if you're going to say "just adopt". Also surrogacy is not an option due to Foo.)