I have a lot of questions about therapy.
April 9, 2011 8:23 PM Subscribe
I need to find a therapist, and I have a lot of questions.
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (17 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I apologize in advance - I know a lot of questions in this vein get asked, but finding the right search terms was just too hard and the multitudes of questions make it hard to find answers. And I also apologize for the rather verbose question, it's really hard for me to boil it down.
I'm 17, about to go to college in the fall, and I'm sick of being miserable. I could go into detail about how I've known since, like, 5th grade that I needed said help but I'm waiting til now, but that's not really relevant. The issues I'm experiencing are mostly in the anxiety/depression-ish (not trying to diagnose myself, just the symptoms line up a little too closely for comfort)/possible unresolved ADD vein (which I realize is a little different, but related, at least for me.) So, therapy, right? But I don't know anything about it.
I was able to find the directory of therapists for my insurance online, and a few in the area. I think I would prefer a man (I'm a girl), knowing that my uncomfortability around school-based therapists and women doctors and people has been this total irrational sense of being judged and whatever and I've felt much more comfortable, oddly enough, with male doctors (of all types) in the past. My options, though, are pretty limited, and most people that come up seem to be LICSW (social worker, right?), with some MA, LMHC. What sort of degree should I be looking for? Social worker sounds wrong to me (I thought they removed abused children from their houses or something, but wikipedia tells me that it seems to be a lot more than that.) Other than meeting in person, is there any way to tell online if you would mesh with them?
My second question is parents. I guess they'll probably be supportive, but they'll probably be all "why?" and I don't want to be like "because I cry myself to sleep twice a week". Do you guys have any suggestion on how to approach it without going into detail about why I know I need it? About how much might it cost them if I use someone listed in the insurance directory (I know this totally depends on the insurance, but if it helps I think it's pretty good insurance, provided by my dad's job at a huge corporation, and has pretty good coverage. I know, for instance, that my pretty damn cosmetic anti-acne topical meds go from $50 to $4 with the insurance.)?
This is totally subjective, but if I was going in 100% ready to open up, how much progress could I really make in the 4ish months before I go to the opposite coast for college? What might happen then? How often do people usually meet? What is therapy...like?
I'm obviously new to all of this, and I'm terrified, but it's kind of come to a head and I know it's something I have to do, if for no other reason than I just wanted a good friend have a rapid breakdown (school, parents, grandparent with cancer, secret abortion...yeah.) and I feel too close to that myself.
Basically, my questions are: How do I find a therapist? How do I ask my parents? How does it work once you're there?
Any other information that you feel is relevant is also welcomed! Thank you!
Throwaway: firstname.lastname@example.org. I'm sorry, I couldn't think of a good one. I don't even like gum drops.