Kind of freaking out about commitment.
April 2, 2011 12:23 PM Subscribe
Why do you commit to being in a relationship with someone?
posted by shornco to human relations (31 answers total) 29 users marked this as a favorite
Let's say you've found a great person with whom you're in an exclusive relationship. Common goals, interests, values, etc. are, for the most part, pretty similar. You have fun together, you fight infrequently, you live together and have found a way to live pretty harmoniously. Let's also say you're in a same sex relationship in a place where marriage isn't legal, there are no kids and no plans to have any, and you're not religious (I'm only sticking this in there because books I've looked up on this subject are often religious). But sometimes it's hard, as all relationships are. What makes you stick with it and work to improve things?
I consider myself to be a pretty mature person but I'm not terribly experienced with long-term relationships. I find myself questioning not if I'm with the right person so much, but more if I'm the type of person cut out for a committed relationship. I was very independant before this relationship and loneliness isn't really an issue for me. I love her, but sometimes I find myself longing for my old freedoms. It's not even a grass is greener question; I feel like if I left this relationship I'd be perfectly happy not dating. I mainly want to hear other people's versions of why it's worth it to stick with it. Or, maybe, why it's okay to not.