RELEASE THE DORK!
April 1, 2011 3:09 PM Subscribe
How do I learn to be more myself with someone I'm crushing on?
posted by sprezzy to human relations (10 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I'm seeing a boy--he's just about one of the sweetest guys I've ever met and I really want to make it work. The thing is, it's been about a month and I still feel flustered and nervous when I hang out with him.
Normally I'm a huge dork...I make stupid jokes and delight in verbal humor/verbal banter. I'm also really into dry humor. I'm totally like this with my oldest friends and family, and I'm usually very social when I'm talking to absolute strangers (no pressure to perform, perhaps?). I like making people laugh.
For some reason, though, I feel like I lose it with this guy. I think it's partially that he's (on the outside) shy and quiet himself. I feel like I might hold back based on that, because I don't want to weird him out or embarrass him (when meeting his friends). He's so reserved sometimes that I almost can't bring myself to let loose and go full dork.
I have no problem throwing out my little jokes and quips in writing. I blog little stories (which he seems to find amusing) and when we text we can totally slip into silly, nonsensical exchanges. I'm just worried that I can't seem to bring that when we're hanging out in person. He's said before that one of the things that attracted him was my humor, and I guess I'm just a little afraid that--through extended hangouts--he'll find I'm not that funny after all.
How can I show him my funny side in person? Does it just take time? Or is this a bad sign (dun dun DUUUNNN)?