On OKCupid; I'm male. I don't send many messages, maybe 3-5 per week & I'm trying to be selective & take time to re-read a profile and compose an "attractive" message. I don't get many responses and I understand that some women get a lot
of unsolicited msgs. so they might be extremely selective.
So, someone awesome
responded and I sent a message back later the same day. Just checked: yikes, only a bit over an hour. Now it's been two days & thanks to OKC's "last visited" snoop-a-matic, I know she's been on.
So a) should I have waited longer? b) will she reply? (rhetorical: I know I'm being impatient) c) how long should I wait next time?
I guess I could use the time to compose a draft response & let it sit for dispassionate review.
Recent & related: just ending communication, callous as it may seem, really is the norm
and maybe really is an easier let down than "on 2nd thought not interested" message. The three day rule still sort of exists
, for some people, anyway.