Help me talk to my vet.
March 28, 2011 3:48 AM Subscribe
How do I tell my vet that it's time to stop trying to diagnose my cat, and help him have a peaceful end? Looking for a possible script to follow.
posted by nprigoda to human relations (22 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My cat, after a long and happy life, has been having health problems lately and we brought him to see our local vet. Before visiting the vet, my husband and I discussed what lengths (procedural and financial) we were willing to go to treat our cat before making the final decision.
At the first visit, we ended up going above our discussed limit, but things were going very quickly, and it was really beginning to look like it was going to be our second last vet visit ever. :(
Now the vet has called back, saying there is some question regarding her initial diagnosis, and they would like us to bring our cat back for further testing. One part of the testing is not extremely invasive (it's a chest tap, to remove possible fluid which may also be a tumor) but it is invasive enough that our skittish cat will be very, very unhappy.
When speaking to the vet about this, and expressing my feeling that the multi-organ nature of his illness leads me to think that it is most likely cancer (which the vet agreed was the most likely diagnosis), she continued to push the additional testing.
We are not willing to perform these tests when the outcome will most likely be the same. We would like to say goodbye to our little guy while he is still the cat we remember, and before he is in any more pain.
My problem? I can't say this to my vet. I've always caved under pressure, and she is very convincing. What I need is a script to follow, when making the appointment and while talking to the vet that will make it clear that we feel we are making the right decision.
Thank you for your help during this difficult time. I hope you understand the lack of photos, but trust me, he's a very sweet guy.